Where Were You When the World Stopped Turning?

As the 10 year anniversary of the September 11th terrorist attacks arrive this weekend, it has me thinking about that horrible day.  I am sure that many Americans are thinking of it along with me. I know that there are many remembrance ceremonies happening all weekend.  As I write this I feel a tightening in my chest...reliving the day in my memory and the feelings that I experienced that day.  I will never forget how I felt that day.  I don't think any American will forget that day...where they were and what they were doing as they heard the news. I will never forget the images of the towers burning and falling, the Pentagon torn apart and on fire and a plane crashing into a Pennsylvania field.  Heroes were born and heroes died on that fateful day.  Men and women who didn't know what they were going to face that day. Men and women who couldn't have imagined the courage they would muster. Men and women that will never be forgotten.

I was on my way to work and looking out my car window thinking to myself that it was such a beautiful September day; blue skies and only a wispy cloud here and there.  It was definitely much too nice a day to be going to work.  Then, on the radio, I heard that a plane had flown into the one of the towers of the World Trade Center. At first, all the reports were saying that it was a small single engine plane, but that was soon recanted and new reports started rolling in fast and furious.  I arrived at work moments later. We had no television there so I plugged in a portable radio and the entire office stood around listening in horror as the 2nd plane crashed into the north tower.  We realized quickly that the first plane crash was not an accident.  What was happening? Who would do such a thing?

The attacks had only just begun, there was more to come.  We were glued to any device that would clue us in to what exactly was happening.  We left work early and went to our homes and our families.  But even then, we were intent on the television, watching the attacks and abject destruction of life unfold before our eyes.

As the day unfolded it didn't get any better...people were trapped.  Police, fireman and EMT personnel became additional casualties to the list of all the people who couldn't get out of the towers and those who were on the four planes. It seemed to go on forever.  The casualties kept growing in number. It seemed that it would never end.  

In the days following the attacks which affected not only New York, Washington D.C. and Pennsylvania, but all of America.  Life would never be the same in America. Americans will never forget the attacks on our land, our people and our sense of peace.  People close to the towers would grab anyone and hug them as if clinging onto another for life. The adrenaline pumping furiously as they ran from the burning towers.  You could see it and almost feel it yourself as you watched on television.  They would grab someone tell what they saw and felt, how the ground shook and the skies darkened .  It was the same story over and over and still we watched, unable to turn away.

But even as buildings fell, people joined together. Untold numbers flooded into churches and synagogues to pray for the missing and lost and the families who were struggling with violent loss. Strangers gathered together to join in candlelight vigils for the missing and those souls that were lost.  Families flooded the streets putting up posters of their loved ones who were still missing.  It went on and on and we watched it for days and weeks on end, always hoping to hear of a miracle. Waiting.  This country pulled together as one like we had never seen before. We held hands, we hugged strangers and we prayed together.  We had compassion for our brothers and sisters, our friends and neighbors.

And suddenly it is ten years later.  Reports of an imminent threat have been heard on the news. Can Americans handle another attack on our land? On our families? Our sense of peace?  It has taken a long time to get to a place of peace again for so many Americans, especially those who lost loved ones.  But no matter what, this country will prevail.  It's values and principles have stood for over 200 years and it will rise against any threat to prevail. Our compassion and brotherly love will hold us together when buildings fall.  We did it when we were attacked on September 11, 2001 and no matter what happens we will stand together. We are anchored. We will stand as one. One people. One nation.

A while back I was reading in Samuel I about Hannah and how she trusted God with her innermost thoughts, the most intimate of her desires. It says that she anguished in her soul.  Hannah desired a son with everything she had. Back then barren women were considered to be under a curse from God. I never read the bible until after I was saved, but I have always felt a connection to Hannah.  I have known that anguish in my soul.

I had always wanted a child. God blessed me with a son when I didn't deserve being blessed...at least not in my own eyes, but God sees us through different eyes. My son is now 22-years-old. He was unexpected but I knew the moment I found out I was carrying him, my life would be different.  I know that I am blessed. I cannot imagine my life without him. Having a child completely changed my life, who I was back then and who I am today.  As I look back to the person I was over 20 years ago, I can definitely say I don't recognize her.  I was spiraling out of control.  I had made several choices about how I lived that were not the best for me.  But God knew what was best for me and what would turn my life around to Him. 

I always tell my son that he never has to wonder what his purpose is, being in this life, on this earth.  I know first and foremost God used him to save me.  God used a child to get my attention and to look at how I was living and what I was doing.  I have to say it worked.  I did a complete 180 degree turn around. I had to.  It was all about our survival, although I did not know it then.  I learned that it is never too late to trust in the Lord.  It is never too late to change.

God has always been the father for my son and the husband I needed.  Although for a time we both longed for that earthly father and husband, God showed us that He has a reason for what He does and He knows what will work for each one of us.  We have learned to trust in Him and know that He will let us know when the time is right.  He will let us know when change is coming.

God still has plans for me and for my son. He isn't done with either of us. My son wasn't put here just to save me, he was put here for so much more.  Those plans and purposes unfold daily. There is still so much we don't know, but we know that God has an interest in our lives, and only He knows where our lives will turn and change and what we will become.  He knows our innermost thoughts and desires and He wants us to be blessed.  We just have to hold on and let Him lead us where He will.

Summer-ized

It's the middle of August. Usually in the middle of August it is blazing hot outside and the heat is rising off the pavement. You really can fry an egg on the sidewalk!  But today, in the middle of August and only 65 degrees out.  It is too cold. I have to admit, I have been summer-ized.  I love summer.  It is my favorite time of year.  Not only is it warm and sunny, but I tend to spend time outside as often as possible, even if it is just sitting on the back step.  Usually it is just sitting outside, but not this summer.  This summer has been less pain. This summer has been walking. This summer has been Momo.

In the summertime, I remember sitting outside, looking at the clouds and then staying out and waiting for the lightening bugs to show up--then catching them in a jar to watch them light up. I did the same thing with my son when he was little. We walk down a dirt road to our friends house...jumping in the neighbor's pool when it was so hot out and we didn't have a pool. Later on taking my kids to the pool everyday for the entire day. Great suntans. Loads of fun. Great memories.

Summer means drippy ice cream cones and eating them as fast as you can without a brain freeze. It's watching the planes come in at Bradley. Listening to the crickets and the frogs make so much noise you wonder how you will fall asleep later...but you do, listening to the crickets and the frogs singing. I still love these sounds. They bring me back to a different summer, a simpler time.

Summer is a great time for day trips and tons of photographs...and I am all about the photographs! Going to the beach, the fireman's carnivals, summer fairs and roaring campfires. I love it. All of these things give me something to photograph. They remind me of the summers I had as a kid, the summers I had with a kid, and the summer I am currently having with a puppy.  

And this year, since we have a new puppy, summer means walking.  Walking like I haven't walked in almost 20 years.  Not because I didn't want to, but because I couldn't.  Arthritis is a horrible thing.  But this summer has been wonderful because I am walking.  Until this summer, going for a 45 minute walk was something I could only dream about. I am not sure what changed this year but for the first time in 17 years I have been able to go for a walk. I love it!

Typically, as it gets colder, pain sets in and so does hibernating in the upstairs of my house...where the heat rises.   In the winter, throughout the winter, I just say to myself...only 89 more days of being cold...only 70 more days of winter...only 42 more days of freezing my fanny off!  I can get through this. Oh my goodness! Why is it still freezing??!  I hate being cold. I really hate it.

But for right now, summer is still here.  It may be only 65 degrees outside, but it isn't freezing. I am hanging onto every drop of summer I can.  And for now I am taking walks with my puppy.  Hopefully it will last. But no matter what, I will always have this summer and being summer-ized.

How Life Has Changed!

I am afraid this is going to be a long post...so get yourself a snack and sit back and enjoy!

Someone started a post on Facebook which really got me started thinking, so I am revising the initial thoughts and ideas and expounding on them. Basically it got me thinking about how different things are for kids growing up today than they were for my generation growing up in the 20th century, specifically the sixties and seventies. We really did have it good back then even if we didn't realize it until we were grown up and facing the concept of raising our own children. But isn't that how it is with every generation? We all try to make things better for our own children, but they may be missing out on some of the simplest things in life. Maybe we really aren't making life better for them in the long run. Life's pace is so much faster than it was when I was a kid, and I got to be a kid. I had a childhood where I got to act my age and not grow up too fast.

When I was a child, my mother made me play outside and go looking for friends. She didn't drop me off at the mall and let me fend for myself. I had to tell my mother where I was going, who I was with and when I would be back. If it was hot, you went outside.  If it was snowing, you went outside..and you stayed outside in that snow for hours until your cheeks were rosy and your hands were freezing...what a blast! There was hot chocolate waiting inside and we usually got to make maple syrup sundaes with fresh snow!

If my mom wanted me, she did not call my cell phone, she yelled out the door for me, and I had better be within hearing distance! I didn't have the Internet or a cell phone at my disposal 24 hours a day and I wasn't allowed to just use the phone any time I wanted...at least not till I was in my teens. I still had to be considerate and share the phone with others in the family...and we definitely did not take phone calls during meals!  It could ring and ring and ring--my mom always said the phone was for her convenience not the callers...and she was right! In today's day of cell phones constantly ringing and not going anywhere without one, there are definitely times when I just DON'T want to answer it.

When the street lights came on, I had better be in the house...that was my curfew. When it was time for dinner, I had better be there and eat what was put in front of me. If I didn't eat it for dinner when it was hot, I had it cold the next day till it was gone. (I still have an aversion to split pea soup!)  People were starving in China you know...how many of you heard that one growing up?!  And guess what, it didn't kill me.

You couldn't get away with much when I was a kid.  Neighbors cared about what you did and let your mom know if you did something wrong. Why? Quid pro quo. Because they would want to be informed if their kids did something wrong too. Neighbors counted on each other. Today you might have lived next to them for years and still not even know your neighbor's name!

We didn't have a pool till I was in my early teens, so we played in the sprinkler and had a blast. We drank from the water hose which was usually just laying there on the ground.  I probably ate dirt as a kid too...you know...remember mud pies? Who didn't make those?  We survived.  I also swam in a pond, walked home from school, did my chores first if I wanted to go outside, and babysat for 50 cents an hour! Don't even try the "My friends don't have to do chores!" act, because when it came to talking back, my mom didn't give a hoot what the other kids were doing...as she said "you are my kid and you'll do what I say!"  I got punished, I got grounded and whatever punishment I had it was adhered to even if my mom wasn't home. My mom was the boss of me whether I liked it or not. Really. Most kids don't know what is good for them.

Hand sanitizer didn't exist, but you could sure get your mouth washed out with soap...and survive it. You learned pretty quick not to talk back or swear! Getting dirty was fine because you were going to take a bath and you did wash up before supper.

When I thought I wanted to try smoking in secret with my friends (filtered of course), I didn't get away with it. I got caught, and I paid a price for it. My mom made me smoke a non filter Pall Mall till I puked. That kept me away from cigarettes for a good 8 years!  When I thought I could shoplift a pack of gum from the gas station down the street, my mother made me take it back and apologize to the owner...and I got grounded for a whole summer! We were definitely held responsible for our stupid mistakes..as it should be. Looking back I see that I wasn't very good at getting away with things. 

I would NEVER have thought about threatening my mother with calling the police. I hear of kids threatening their parents for the most inane reasons. I am not talking about legitimate reasons like child abuse, but just because you didn't like how you were being disciplined. There is a BIG difference. You couldn't get away with that when I was a kid.  First of all, how was I going to make that phone call?? It wasn't my phone and I didn't have permission to use it. Secondly, I probably would have gotten my mouth slapped for saying even thinking it and then sent to my room without dinner.  It didn't matter what time it was! I remember getting sent to bed quite early on some occasions. Maybe even gotten my mouth washed out too.  I never dreamed of threatening my parents.  I know I said other things that were completely out of line though and deserved the punishment. I got spanked when I had it coming and I didn't scream child abuse.  Guess what? Still here. Survived it. Probably better for it.

I also didn't get an allowance. I wasn't entitled to it for the "work" I did around the house. I vacuumed, I dusted, I polished (yes, polished), washed floors and toilets, dishes and clothes.  Those were called chores, and I did them because it was expected of me. It taught me responsibility.  Again, I am definitely better off for it.

It wasn't all about what I couldn't do either.  We spent time together as a family, not on computers or texting, but actually talking together and doing things together. We picked flowers and played hopscotch, jump rope, Mother May I?, freeze tag and Red Light Green Light. We lit sparklers on July 4th, we went camping together, we chased fireflies and we played board games. We rode our bikes or walked if we wanted to go somewhere. We made friends with our neighbors kids because we lived out in the country and that's who there was to play with. 

You know, last of all, I have to tell you, that while raising my son, (now 22 years old and a wonderful young man) I found myself sounding just like my mom sometimes.  I would laugh at myself when I heard it coming out of my mouth and my mother would be rolling!  I think it was the best gift I could ever give her!  It is like she always said...wait till you have your own kids...you'll see.  I love her enough to let her know whenever I hear myself saying something she said to me that I didn't like hearing as a child.  And being the great mom that she is, she always laughed her butt off!!  Thanks Mom, really. You had a part in raising my kid just as much as I did, because you taught it to me first...and I survived it.  You always knew I would.  I think I turned out pretty good despite my mom's loving tactics!!  Today's parents should take a look backwards when raising their kids and remember what they were taught...it is the best thing they can do for their children..and guess what?  They will survive it too.  

Did you survive drinking from a water hose and getting punished when you did something wrong?  I did.  I want to hear your stories too!

P.S.  I thought it was funny when doing a spell check the only two words that came up as problems were Facebook and texting! Hahahaha!

New Family Member

I hope you all don't mind my little puppy story to get me back into the groove of writing.  I had a very busy semester at school with writing, writing, writing! I am the only one in the class who received an A though, so it was definitely worth all the stress, research and writing.  My final thesis was on the true foundation of America.

We got a new puppy about a month ago. She is a Shiba Inu which is a Japanese breed. Her name is Momo, which means "peach" in Japanese. With her thick puppy fur and her coloring, it is the perfect name for her. We are teaching her commands in Japanese too.  It has been interesting getting used to having her in the house and getting her into a routine.  I can say that we are "dog tired" in my house.  It is like setting a toddler loose in the house, but not just a toddler, a toddler with sharp teeth. I can say I am an unofficial chew toy with the bitemarks to prove it!  I love her though.  It is fun and exhausting at the same time. She gets into everything...everything!   I think she has the perfect personality for our little family.  We laugh a lot around here. She has the cutest little bark (so far) and we have heard the famous Shiba scream once or twice already.  She goes to work with me on Fridays and gets along with everyone.  She and Sassy (our cat) are finally finding a way to coexist.

Freedom of Religion

So, it has been over a month since I have written here.  The reason? College classes started again and this semester I am taking a Comp 2 class.  There is a lot of writing in this class.  I am writing a thesis paper on the separation of church and state. Basically, my thesis is that the Founding Fathers of our country did not support a government without Christian values.
In doing the research for this paper, I have found a lot of information and quotes by the Founding Fathers of this country.  It has made me think a lot about my own values, how they mirror the thoughts of those who signed the Declaration of Independence and who risked their own lives to fight for this country to exist.  Those men valued honesty, truth, liberty and God.  The first amendment was written to ensure freedom of religion. The Liberty Bell is inscribed with a verse from Leviticus.  The Declaration of Independence refers to the almighty Creator.  These were men that trusted in God.  They were not afraid to say it in public either. Neither am I.
I have learned so much about our founding fathers and their faith in God.  I hope that in writing my paper I will continue to learn more about the foundation this country was built on and the faith that the Founding Fathers believed in so strongly.  We should all remember that America was founded on the blood and faith of God-fearing men who trusted in God and His Word for their foundation.

The Imagery of Glory

It is another snowy day here in New England.  We have had almost six feet of snow in the month of January alone.  Winter is not nearly over. I remember hearing about Buffalo getting more than twelve feet of snow in just one storm. Connecticut has had a small taste of what Buffalo experienced.  After all, our total snowfall has reached six feet, but over several snow storms. 

Job 37 is full of imagery and of the power and glory of God.  It speaks of the thunder and lightening, rain and snow, all created from the breath of God.  How faithful is Job! He trusts God and experiences what he attributes to God's punishment, but he never loses faith in God; he never curses God.

Vs 5-7 says: "God thunders marvelously with His voice; He does great things which we cannot comprehend.  For He says to the snow, ‘Fall on the earth’; Likewise to the gentle rain and the heavy rain of His strength.  He seals the hand of every man, That all men may know His work."

We may not know what God has in store or the reason behind His wonders, but we know that He wants us to know His work and worship Him.  When the heavy snow falls, it puts a halt to our world.  Roads are closed, school is cancelled. We pause and see the majesty of our God. Vs 13 states:  "He causes it to come, Whether for correction, Or for His land, Or for mercy."

He commands the snow to fall and even though the snow puts a stop to our daily routine, we get to see the wonder of God's awesome power and might.  What more proof do we need that our Lord loves us and wants to bless us?  He cares enough to correct us, He looks out for us and shows us mercy.  

Let Your Light Shine

I watched a movie a while back called Akeelah and the Bee.  It was a good movie and taught some valuable lessons.  There is a quote from the movie that I would like to share. It is Akeelah reading a quote hanging on the wall written by Marianne Williamson:
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same." 
It made such an impression on me that I had to find it on the internet. It speaks to the very core of me.  It made me look inward instead of outward.  Looking inward takes a lot more courage than you imagine. It is much easier to look outward to try to find reason in what we face on a daily basis.  But it is on the inside that we find the true answer; in our heart. 
God formed us in our mother's womb.  It doesn't matter who you are or what you believe, God still knows you. He knew your name, what you life would be like, the trials you would face and how long you would live on this earth.  He knew it before you were conceived.  
Psalm 139:13-14 says: "For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And my soul knows very well."
God knows you. God also knows what and who we need in our lives.  He knows what will challenge me to become a better me; more brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous than I could ever be on my own.  Thank God I am not on my own.  If we allow Him to do so, He will manifest His glory through each one of us.  As we shine, others will see and they will want it too. They will want that shine. They might not know what it is they want, but God knows.  Deep down we all want Him.  We want eternal life with Him.
It is a choice though.  You have to choose God, for He gave us free will to choose Him or not.  God uses us and the abilities He gave us to shine through us. We are wonderfully made.  So let Jesus shine through you today.

Be Strong and of Good Courage

I have been trying to think of something to write about for two days. Unfortunately, I have been in extreme pain and it has quickly forced its way to the front of my mind, trying to be the object of my focus. I have arthritis and with the impending nor'easter about to hit New England, my joints are pretty much screaming in pain. Arthritis is a catch 22 situation--it hurts to move, but if you choose not to move, it hurts even more when you do move. Still, I am forcing myself to focus on God's Word rather than the pain.
Joshua 1:9 states, "Have I not commanded you? Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the LORD your God is with you wherever you go.”
This is my son's favorite verse. He knows, as do I, that no matter what we face God is with us. God knows our fears and our pain, and He still says to be of good courage. I know that God knows my pain and that He helps me deal with it. With His help, I make myself push through the pain every day. Pain could very well discourage me from moving forward in my life, but I know that the Lord has so much more for me. So I face it with the Lord and the courage He gives me.
Be strong and of good courage. God says this to Joshua three times in chapter one alone. Do you think He meant it? Before they cross the Jordan, the men of the Reubenites, Gadites and half tribe of Manasseh also tell Joshua that they will follow him, but for him to be strong and of good courage. This is something important we must live by. If we follow His law and do not depart to the right or the left, He will prosper us wherever we go. (vs 7)
Is there anything you are facing and you know God is with you; facing it right along with you, giving you the strength and courage to go forward?

White as Snow

Peace and tranquility. Everything is quiet and white. We had a snowstorm in the Northeast last night.  It's as if the whole world just stopped because of the snow. I had to fight the urge to go out at 1AM to get dressed again and go outside to take photos of this beautiful white world.  Even at one o'clock in the morning it was bright outside. The small lights on the corner of the building were reflecting the snow and lighting up everything.  The world around me looked clean and fresh. 

Psalm 51:7 says "Purge me with hyssop and I shall be clean; Wash me and I shall be whiter than snow." I couldn't help thinking of this psalm while looking out the window.  It made me feel loved by God.  So white, so clean.  Sometimes we take our world and the weather for granted; the sun, the rain, the snow.  There is a purpose for all of it. The world around us can be so dirty, but God can cleanse it in no time at all.  He can cleanse our hearts as well--in no time at all.  We just have to invite Him in to our world, our hearts.  

I don't really care for the snow. If it is snowing, that means it is cold outside. If it's cold outside, it generally means that my joints are hurting. I jokingly say snow is a four-letter word. But still, after a snow storm, I usually find myself looking at the snow and loving it. Ignoring the cold, I think about the snow and how God uses it to cover everything--the dirt, leaves, sleeping trees, all of it.  Everything is fresh, new and clean.  Just like that He covers our sin and we will be white as snow.  He gives us the opportunity to change our way of thinking, our way of doing things, but we must make the choice.   

All too soon the snow plows come in.  They clear away the snow and throw dirt on the ground.  They bring the world back into our view and open up the paths of choice. Think about it.  Think about how we look at the fresh snow--clean, pure, white and refreshing.  Too quickly the dirt is thrown back into our lives.  We must be vigilant not to let the dirt of the world take away the blessing of forgiveness.  

The roads are open, the way is clear. Choose the right path--clean, fresh, bright and full of promise. Choose life.

        

Who Are You Today?

The following is one of my posts today on Facebook:

I may not be the most beautiful, or have the perfect body. I might not be someone's first choice, but I'm a great choice. I don't pretend to be someone I'm not because I'm good at being me. In fact, I am best at being me. God has forgiven me for the things I've done in the past, and I know where I am spending eternity. I'm proud of who I am today and I wouldn't be who I am if I didn't go down the roads He sent me.

Part of it is from a friend's post, but really felt I needed to make some changes.  

In my heart I know that we should just be who God created us to be.  We may see what others have, and think that we want it, but there is always a reason that we are where we are and have what we have.

I am sure that each one of you have been through trials and wondered why?  Why am I in pain? Why don't I have money to buy what I want?  Even more, why don't I have money to pay my bills? Why am I going through any of this?  

Personally, I have had the discussion about pain with God more times than I can count.  And what I have come to realize is that there is a reason behind everything.   I accept that God knows what is best for me.

Have you heard the song "Bless the Broken Road"?  Well, it really says it all. If I don't go through the hard times, how will I know the good times?  Will I be the person I am supposed to be when it is time for my blessing? If I am not ready, will I miss out on my blessing?  There is a pretty good chance of that. 

Paul says we are supposed to welcome the trials and tribulations-they shape us into who we are supposed to be to receive the blessings that are heading our way.

So I might not have enjoyed all the twists and turns on the road to where I am, but I find that I really am happy with the person I have become. Looking back on some of those times of hardship, I can see that they made me stronger-stronger to deal with the next trial.  I like who I am today. 

What have you gone through in your life which has made you a stronger you? Do you think you would be where you are now if you didn't go through it? Remember: God may bring you to it, but He will also bring you through it.

A New Year, A New Strategy, A New Result

It is the beginning of 2011 and it's a new day.  Once again it is a time for new starts, new ideas, new strategies and new results.  The definition of insane is doing the same thing over and over and then expecting a different result.  It doesn't work.  If we want to see different results, we need to try different strategies--new strategies.
This year is going to be one of success.  I am setting goals for myself which are attainable.  Setting goals which are too difficult or too high is setting yourself up for disappointment.  I don't want to be disappointed.  From this day forward, I am going to achieve and not fail. My goals may start out small, but achieving each small goal will increase my confidence to move on to the more difficult goals.
I think this is a good idea for everyone.  I am going to focus on the positive and not the negative. God's word is full of promise and blessing. Move forward, looking to what the future will bring rather than what is in the past.  Let go of the past--it is just like a weight stopping from you from moving forward. You cannot change the past, but you can change your future. There is no expectation in the past, but the future is full of hope.  God's word in  Jeremiah 29:11-13 promises us that He has plans for our future; plans to prosper us and bring us no harm. We must have faith to believe and trust in the Lord.  God says to repent from sin, call on Him and He will hear us.  If we seek the Lord with all our heart, we will find Him.
We have hope in our future if we have faith in the Lord.  So this is how I am going to look at my future, with hope and faith leading to blessing and success.  One Way.